WALLACE: I’m 18 and Mario is 20 and we have been dating for about four months. We met at a friend’s birthday party and were mutually attracted to one another. The first two months together were wonderful and we had great times together.
Then Mario seemed to change. If I wasn’t home when he called, he demanded to know where I was and who I was with. Pretty soon he got upset if I talked to another guy. Then he started following me in his car when I walked home from work. He doesn’t know I’m aware of this, but I have seen him following me in his car about a block behind me. As soon as I get home, he calls me and pretends to be somewhere else.
On our last date, he took me home early when I talked for a few minutes to a guy from my church when we were at the mall. On the way home, he told me he did not want me ever to talk to another guy when I was out with him.
Now my parents are upset with him because of this and they told me that I should just stop seeing him immediately. I’m not really sure if I want to do that. I kind of like that he is jealous and it makes me feel special and wanted. What do you think I should do? — Nameless, Del Rio, Tex.
NAMELESS: Mario’s possessive behavior is out of control and will only get worse. While his jealousy may make you feel “special and wanted” now (though it’s obviously unnerving as well) soon will begin to make you feel like a bird in a cage.
He has crossed way over the line and may need professional help to get a handle on his deep-seated insecurities and inability to trust. I urge you to listen to Mom and Dad and give this guy his walking papers. You deserve to be treated with love and respect, which will truly make you feel special and wanted.